20-year-old woman ghosts friend after she compares her to a bad ice cream flavour: ‘Once you try it, you kind of start to like it. And it has all of these layers like it's deeper than you thought, but you have to learn to like it.’

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Olivia Arocena • Writer and Editor
Jul 16, 2026 8:00 AM EDT

What a weird way of saying 'I like you'

When friendships consist of trios, it's only natural that sometimes two of the people involved team up and the other gets left out. I'm not saying it's ok; I'm saying it happens. I have many long-term friendship trios that have evolved in many ways through the years, sometimes leaving me out, sometimes leaving somebody else out, and sometimes being the three of us against the world. Maybe this girl only has to cut contact with this person, but on a side note, I'm trying to interpret fights between people who really care about each other as temporary; let's find out if that's the case.

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    The woman eating her ice cream

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  • AITBA for “ghosting” my friend after she tells me I’m the “ice cream flavor no one likes”?

    Hello! This is my first time posting on reddit. So here it goes! I (20F) have been friends with this girl, let's call her Kate (21F) for about a year, but we grew closer over the past few months. When I first met
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  • her, I thought she was fake and kind of self-centered, but I will admit that I may have been a little biased. My best friend at the time, Alice (20F), seemed wooed by her and they did everything together (though I thought we were
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  • best friends and I had known Alice for about a year at that point). She was one of the first friends I made in college and we are on similar career paths, so we study and hang out a lot. I'm including Alice here because I thought my
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  • initial read of Kate was simply because I felt left out and like I was losing my best friend. Despite my initial concerns, I decided that I was being ridiculous and there was no reason for us to not be friends together. This did not turn
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  • out as expected. For the first few months everything was great. We were a trio! I had always believed that trios wouldn't work because someone would be left out, but for a while that wasn't
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  • the case. Unfortunately for me, once the new wore off, the truth became clear. Alice and Kate were besties and I was just a backup. They would hang out without me, and talk about their plans in front of me. When we rode
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  • somewhere together, they would sit up front and I was always in the backseat. They made me drive a LOT because I lived off campus, but if one of them drove they would pick me up last and drop me off first because "i
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  • Actions are a big way of communicating, right? Sometimes, one wants to twist reality and interpret things in many ways, but I think it’s always advisable to take things at face value. If your friends don’t include you, if you feel insulted or walked all over, you should take that as information, and a talk might not be necessary. Sometimes, when we talk to people in situations like this, we are told we’re crazy, and things stay the same, so I always think boundaries should come in the form of actions. It’s weird that OP feels guilty for ghosting after all that; she did what she had to do, they left her with no options, and also they didn’t come looking for her afterwards.

  • lived further away" (not true lol but whatever). I put up with it for a while and tried not to read too much into it. The issues started to arise at our sorority's formal. To make a long story short, I had a terrible day and almost wasn't
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  • able to go to formal. Kate convinced me that I needed to drink alcol to "chill out," even though I was fine (just a little emotional). They both convinced me to wear a dress that didn't fit the theme and I felt like an
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  • idiot. While at formal, she insisted that my longterm boyfriend (Liam 21M) hold her phone and purse. She kept commenting on how she forgot how great it is to have a man (excuse me?!). Then, we went to get some ice cream (per
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  • Kate's request). Liam was driving my car and when we were in the line Kate started yapping about what ice cream flavor I would be. She said "omg Liam, do you know what ice cream flavor \[my name\] would be? She
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  • would so be rocky road. because no one really likes it. Like I don't like it at all, but once you try it, you kind of start to like it. And it has all of these layers like it's deeper than you thought, but you have to learn to like it." She went
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  • on and on and I started crying. The car got quiet and Liam handed me some tissues. When we pulled up to order I said I didn't want any, but she still ordered. She asked Liam if I was
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  • okay when we dropped her off. This ped me off, so I left and didn't text her much. Am I the bad apple for protecting myself?
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  • Puzzleheaded_Ad_3810 What an absolutely hurtful and idiotic comment. I would not be friends with her any longer.
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    The flavours the friend was describing her as

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  • Dotted Unicorn Time to find better friends. And I bet $5 she's going to try and date your boyfriend. Distance is needed here. You deserve way better
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  • morbidcuriosity86 I mean, isnt that exactly what you thought of her when you first met her?
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  • The ice cream episode was insulting enough; there is no way around it. It was a direct confession about her friend’s feelings towards her. Can her feelings change and evolve with time? Sure, but nobody should stay and endure that just for the sake of patience. Good for her. NTBA.

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